IT 'S ABOUT TIME

 

Recently I attended a wedding where I was one of the bride’s maids. The choice of color was perfect and the event was beautiful with dance-able music, tasty meals, and of course handsome groomsmen. I am one who enjoys social events and reunions, the fact that I get to see beautiful outfits, laugh at funny dance steps and the moment where I am one of the centers of attraction and get to feel like a celebrity second to the bride and groom. It is almost impossible to be lost in the crowd when you are one of the bride’s maids especially when the bride has good fashion sense.

Weddings however have their sour moments; you get tired if you attempt to wear heels and look elegant, some speeches by Guest can be quiet boring too. There’s one irritating cliche question Nigerian women and girls like to ask  “so when are we coming for your wedding” or “when will we eat your rice” My rice? Really!!!  Apparently a lot of people are interested in the Event. I have realized that most young girls tell themselves “well, it is about time I get married”. The phrase that gives me a good laugh is “you need to settle down” Like the guy or babe in question is as unsettled as troubled waters

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This is my honest opinion about Marriage;

• ·         Marriage goes beyond the big event, the Lovey dovey display photos or the Public display of affection.

• ·         Marriage is a lifetime commitment and should not be rushed into. Personally I feel marriage should be between two  Matured people who have collective vision and purpose that match except one party is willing to adjust or completely forfeit to help the other fulfill his or hers. One will chase a thousand and two will chase ten thousands but this can only happen when the two agree and are chasing after the same thing.  

• ·         Marriage is beautiful but can be unattractive and really ugly when it is done with the wrong person for you. Know that a person may seem perfect but may not be perfect for you. In the end  a young man or woman should work towards fulfillment and making lasting positive impact on Lives, A wrong marriage can take you off  your purpose, Making you stay in “Because of your kids” or “ because of religious belief and society”  and that’s the reason why we see a lot of miserable married people.

A good marriage is possible and it is very possible to fall in love with your spouse with each new day, it is very possible to have a great marriage that feels like every day is a party. As possible as it is its no magic it takes work and physical, financial, social and spiritual maturity. It takes two who are matured in every way or at least are willing, ready and working towards maturing real fast.

The” it’s about time syndrome” is pretty contagious  especially in Nigeria but if you are able to Discover yourself and what you are meant to do in your life time  you may not be carried  away. You would know that Marriage is meant to connect two great minds with a collective vision for a bigger impact and help you attain that fulfillment as you help your spouse too. Just in case you telling yourself it are about time remember   to not get so anxious that the available becomes the desirable. 

Do you think it is OK to make the available become your desirable? Please drop your honest comments….